I won’t lie, I get way too angry at this game, like unreasonably angry. It frustrates me way more than it should, but I can’t help it. Sometimes I just completely lose it over stuff that really isn’t that big of a deal. I know it’s just a game and most people probably don’t get why I react like that, but the way things go down in it messes with me and makes me snap. I don’t always have control over it, and honestly, I haven’t figured out how to fix that yet.
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I just immediately go do something else if I get actually angry before I have a chance to let it affect my decisionmaking, usually something menial and with low potential to irritate like vacuuming the floor or taking a shower
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i used to get unreasonably angry at CM at times but forcing yourself to take a deep breath and not get mad/going to do something else eventually gets engrained into you and the anger towards video games in general will fade over time
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I don’t have any experience with dealing with irrational anger, but I do sometimes get mad at games. What I usually do is just close whatever I’m playing when I notice I am not enjoying myself and then do a few pushups so I don’t sit on the anger.
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The first step is recognizing you’re angry in the first place, so good on you. The step after that is taking a minute to think instead of react, and that’s much harder. If you’re really angry about something, you’re in fight or flight mode, and you don’t want to calm down, you want to fight. Even if it’s just for a minute, remove yourself from the situation. Minimize the window, stand up and move away, excuse yourself if you’re irl- whatever. You can always come back to a discussion later, but you can never unsay something.
Then you can run through whatever thoughts/techniques you like to use:
Physical stuff:
Deep breathing, a walk, progressive muscle relaxation, sensory stuff (holding an ice cube, running water over your hands), music
Thoughts:
- If I snap now, will I feel good about my actions later?
- Things can’t be unsaid.
- If there is a legitimate issue, I can come back and have a calm discussion later with a level head, but I know I’m not seeing clearly right now.
- It’s okay to feel angry right now, anger itself is not a bad thing. It would become a bad thing if I took it out on someone.
- Am I actually mad that I died in a video game, or am I mad that something’s happened irl?
Outside of the moment, it’s helpful to keep tabs on what’s happening in your life. For example, if you’ve been stuck in traffic for an hour before you got home, be aware that your temper might be shorter than usual and act appropriately. If you’ve got a final that you’re stressed about, if you’re grieving, if you don’t have other outlets for anger, etc, these are all things that can affect you.
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Anger is not necessarily a bad thing. It means that you care and are invested into the game. One way that helps reduce my anger/frustration is to realize there are some things that are out of your control. I find it not productive to be mad/frustrated about it. You cannot control the quality of your teammates. They may magdump you or abandon you to get captured. On the xeno end, they may make no effort to pat out your burning body or bodyblock you to death. These do not go away and you learn to deal with this. If all else fails, I simply vent in dchat and hope no one still alive during the match gets the chance to read it.
Instead put your efforts in improving yourself in playing better or to experiment with loadouts. I also have a second game to play on hand if I do get perma’d so it’s not such a big deal.
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deep breaths, focus on that for 30 seconds, then see how you are feeling.
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raging doesn’t rly fix anything, if a game doesn’t provide you enjoyment, or worse starts to ruin your mood, play other games
it sounds stupid but I mean this, CM isn’t going to vanish if you stop playing it, go play literally anything else, even a slop moba or some free to play mmorpg or satisfactory
When you get to the point of a game ruining your day, if you come back to it after a break you will see it with new eyes and new experiences to have fun again. Especially with CM where the code is always evolving.
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Mald in dchat, dont play cm for a month, go outside, really just stop playing cm for a while so you could understand again why you love this game
When I get pissed off it tends to be because I died in a bullshitty way.
When I’m feeling particularly salty: Before ever clicking on “Join as Marine/xeno” I think to myself “Could I use this time in a more productive way?”, the answer is always yes.
This is some goofy ass 2D spessman game, I’m not part of “It’S oNlY a GaMe BrAh” gang because who fucking cares if it’s a game or not, if I’ve sunk well over a thousand hours then this thing definitively matters to me. But despite how much it matters to me the thing is that there are always better ways to use my time, maybe I forgor to clean up my home, maybe studying a little bit more would be helpful, maybe I could try to code, maybe I could polish up my english so I can actually pass the C1 exam, whatever.
So after thinking what I COULD do, I join up into the game and when I innevitably die I don’t really salt because I know damn well that I just found an excuse to actually do something helpful and productive.
There is no time to salt on DChat when doing nicer shit is so accesible in comparison.
Don’t get me wrong I’ll still salt in DChat just because how could you play SS13 without salting on DChat; are you really getting the full SS13 experience if you don’t shit all over anything that minorly inconveniences you? Shittalk because it’s funny and not out of salt because on the grand scheme of things CM is irrelevant.
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Honestly you gotta just not play the game after you start feeling that kind of anger.
Malding in dchat, while fun to do can get pretty heated, and if you get irrationally angry you might say or do something you regret later. Do what yrsa recommended, take a breather and do something else. Whenever I get too angry from ahem, mentally unique teammates, I just shut down the game and play something else on Steam.
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If you rage at anything other than unfair deaths/FF, then you got a big problem that won’t be fixed by some randoms on forum, seek help from medical specialists.
If you do rage on unfair deaths, then go DNR, say “fuck”, or whatever curse word you preffer in your native language, then turn off BYOND ASAP and play something nice with a singleplayer campaign.
If you rage on FF, say "fuck, or whatever crse word you preffer in your native language, if you don’t think you will be revived, do the same as with the case of unfair death, if you think you can be, wait for it, then inform as many marines as you can about the guy who fucked you up so that he should be avoided, which should result in him not receiving much help from others on purpose.
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Dchat salting is the easiest and quickest outlet tbh but there is almost never an excuse for salting directly to harm another player.
Honestly the bigger problem imo is the feeling after getting revived. Bone breaks (and “bad rounds” which drag on) feel way way worse then deaths.
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To be honest with you. You really have to ‘figure it out’ yourself y’know? (What makes you “angy” grrrrr!)
Try to put on some low-fi music while playing, or even better - try to imagine you are an actor in a scene that of course, militarism is the theme but as an actor you have the job to sometimes do a ‘scene’ or try to make it like one of those old comedy series like iCarly, Drake & Josh, How I met your mother.
People trying to cut the line for example, really pisses me off for example, but it’s also funny when people get angry at that so I tag along with the ‘getting angry’ but have a comedy-lite to it.
@Cabal said a really good example and FF really is an issue BUT - if you feel like it’s something with intent or you are the target of it do Ahelp. But don’t judge everyone like that because some people really don’t wish you any bad and just as I hope all of us - here to either look like a badass marine, a lactose intolerance milk-drinking Yautja, or a xeno-sis that pushed you a few times not because they wanted you to die - but sometimes some would go as far as jumping in front of the fire to die for you.
I’m probably stretching more than I should but hey, @AnCopper, if you need people to talk about it, pick a nice friend or just someone that you know. It’s better to talk and let it out than let it consume you from the inside out. (I’M NOT TELLING HIM TO META-COM ADMINS!!!)
(Also better lawyer tip than anything, if you don’t feel like you playing in the right mind, alt+tab. Better than having to deal with some happy accidents. We will get 'em next round o7)
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